What comes after graduation?

By: 
Miranda Martin, SHS Intern

I have noticed here lately that the odds of me ever seeing anyone I went to school with after graduation are very slim. I feel that I will not have the same friends when I go to college. I know that is usually what happens when you leave for college. I read a quote the other day that said, “At one point you and your friends went out to play together for the last time and didn’t even know it.” That kind of hit me hard. I started to think back on my childhood and I realized that the people I grew up with I don’t talk to that much anymore.  I can’t remember the last time I hung out with my original friend group from elementary school. Back then it was me and three other girls, one of which moved schools at some point in elementary school and the other two are in different friend groups. Sometimes I talk to them but just briefly. 

You see high school changes you, when you’re in middle school and elementary school you don’t care who you hang out with or talk to, your differences don’t matter. But when you get into high school it’s like everything matters. I honestly don’t care who I am friends with anymore because people are people and sometimes they just fade away. Although I am friends with people from all sorts of friend groups. Not technically friends per-say, more like acquaintances, because I don’t talk to a lot of my peers these days. 

I mainly keep to myself  because if I am going off to college soon what’s the point in starting new friendships here? It is just sad to think that I won’t be leaving school with the same people I came in with. It’s just a weird feeling. I could sit here and talk about people that I haven’t talked to in forever and just name them all. Some people that I used to be good friends with I don’t even know where they live now, or what happened to them. Sometimes I find myself thinking back on someone that used to go to school with me and realize they don’t anymore and I wonder what ever happened to them. They could be dead for all I know. It’s just weird, I am at a weird age right now and I am realizing that everyone around me is disappearing. I wonder if I will ever see any of these people again. 

I have been known to fall off the grid a little bit from time to time, which is kind of unusual for someone of my age. Sometimes I don’t feel like hanging out with friends and I just want to keep to myself and stay home. My friends think it’s because I am in a relationship and I just spend all my time with my significant other, but that isn’t the whole reason. I mean I do spend a lot of time with him, but I sometimes don’t want to participate in going out with friends. One of my friends that is apart of the same friend group as me said that they probably won’t see me ever again after high school because I like to go MIA a lot and they will probably only see me on Instagram. 

I do feel bad that I do that but that’s just the type of person I am. I don’t want to be surrounded by people all the time, sometimes I just want to be around my close knit group of people such as my boyfriend and my family. It’s nothing against my friends, I do enjoy hanging out with them but unless we actually have something to do, like we make plans to go somewhere, I don’t want to just drive around town trying to find something to do or someone to hang out with. It’s kind of a waste of time. I always enjoy anytime spent with my friends, I am just one of those people that doesn’t want to get out unless I have to. Especially here lately since it has been so cold. I absolutely hate the cold weather I feel like when it comes down to it I probably won’t stay in contact with a lot of my classmates after graduation. I didn’t make too many close connections with others so I don’t think it will be that hard for me to not stay connected to my peers. 

My sister tells me all the time about how she doesn’t really talk to the people she went to high school with. I have also noticed it when she first graduated she was still connected to the people she went to school with but  as time went on, they gradually grew apart. I feel like that will probably happen to me. She used to have many friends and spend a lot of time with them. She was rarely ever home. She was always out with friends doing something. Now she just has her boyfriend and her daughter and some close knit friends. I think that is what growing up is. You end up not caring about how many friends you have and you just take the ones that are there for you. 

I think I have started to realize that and I don’t need a bunch of friends to be happy. I just need my selective few. Therefore, I probably won’t stay connected to a bunch of my peers after high school but I’ll be fine with the ones that I do stay in contact with. I have been trying to do things on my own lately. So when I go to college I will be able to take care of myself better, without having to depend on my parents. I just hope that I can handle the “real world” on my own.  

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